The fight between freedom and responsibility.
People say, 21st, the age of receiving the key to the freedom. I've got my key as a birthday gift. So does it suggest that I've gotten my freedom? But I feel that when the freedom is given to you, you gotta handle that responsibility. Because you've gotten your freedom, you're free to do anything. However if there should be any fault in what you do, then you will have the responsibility of solving it.
So in this case, does it mean that responsibility comes with freedom?
The understanding of growing up.
Growing up to the age of 21. You've learn about life for the last 21 years. You've learn about the different problems that may occur, the different ways of solving these problems.
With what you've learn last 21 years, can you use them to handle your rest of the life?
The ways of handling problems.
Hmmm.. I guess at the age of 21, you need to learn to handle problems in a mature way. And not always crying a corner, getting yourself drunk cos you cant solve it? And think for the people around you more? Everyone has problems. So why burden them with your problems?
The rights of proclaiming.
Having the right to fight what's yours. Should you think you deserve it, then go get for it!
The responsibility to your actions.
The freedom of your time and your life.
But by not doing it overboard. You're still liable for your actions to people who care for you. But as time goes on, the environment changes, you'll have more control.
The knowing of rights and wrongs.
Knowing what's right and wrong. Grouping them according. And of course doing mostly the right thing to satisfy yourself and the need or wants to work towards your goal.
The knowledge of reading people expressions.
No longer a kid. A kid who can't study from other be it facial, oral, body expression. Learn to accept and know what to do by looking at their expression. More importantly, knowing how to zhuo ren!
The determination to work for what you wish.
If you have a goal, work for it. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
The relationships that you handle.
I guess this is the part that a lot of people will tend to miss out. Handling relationship isn't as easy as it seems. Sometimes you got to know that you are liable towards that.
Like say, a kinship,
Family members are the one who accompanied you the moment you were born. You have their blood running in you. No matter how much you hate them, you still gotta understand that no water is thicker than blood. But however, should you choose to ignore this certain family member, always know your limits. There is no forever hate, just like people who don't trust forever love.
Like friendship,
Human and human relationship. Be it, where, how, when, what, why you know the person. You consider the person as your friend. Take this up and treat them the way you should. See from your own eyes and no listen from other people mouths.
Like relationship,
This is something that you've taken up willingly. So therefore, knowing how to maintain a relationship is something to learn. Little quarrels or arguments can help build up the relationship, but, one should never throw tantrums always on the other party. Knowing when and how to seek attention from each other is also important.
And never to bring out what happen in the past in your quarrels or arguments always. It'll surely hurt each other during the process. Once you've learn how to appreciate each other and understand the fact that everyday, there is something you'll learn new about each other. That is maintaining a healthy relationship.
But, it doesn't mean that a healthy relationship will exclude quarrels and arguments. It should happens but a healthy couple will infuse the quarrels or arguments in the most peaceful way to create less amount of hurt on each other.
Work hard and smart,
Learn of different ways to face everyday.
Be yourself.
Sweet 21st,
xoxo
